I hope this week is off to a good start for you. It’s pretty good here at Women Recharged HQ.
I just felt like sharing this….this past Sunday was my daughter, Maya’s, 20th birthday – omgosh!! I can’t even believe first that she’s 20 and that it’s been 20 years since I was 18 years old. What I’ve learned from being a mom is that time waits for no one – sure, we hear people say it, and intellectually we know it – but don’t realize how much life and how many lessons we’ve learned over the years. How our stories shape us.
As a young mom I thought that time would last forever and that she’d never grow up – but the truth is we were both growing up together – every single day. I look back at the many milestones in my own life and what I was doing as well.
- She was born – I had just dropped out of high school less than a year before, left my parents house then moved back when I got pregnant. I was working fulltime at McDonalds making 3.80 per hour. I was really happy about having her and working. It was a good time even though society says it should not have been.
- She was 5 – Hmmm. Where was I? …………oh Dallas – I had moved to from Mobile to my first big city on my own- if you read my book, Confessions of an Independent Woman: Truth, Lies & Relationships, you know that period of time was a doosey. She was doing okay and I was trying to figure out who I was. Whew, God grace!!
- She was 10 – You would think I was in the military as much as we moved. We were in St. Louis at this time – I was in an abusive relationship and because she lived with me by default, so was she. It wasn’t a good time for us. But we made it through!
- She was 15 – I couldn’t stand her and she couldn’t stand me. LORD! For about 3 years it was rough – this was just after I started the journey I am on now, had met my husband and added a bonus child (step-son) to our household. It was a tough road to “living my purpose” and “being a mom” the way she wanted. That was one thing that really stuck out – she wanted be to be someone else and I couldn’t be. When she turned 18 she told me “mom, you were right!” She’s really my ride or die chick and my favorite person in the world. The one thing I am most proud of is she was a virgin until at least 18! I tried hard on that one! I didn’t want her to be me at that age.
- Now she is 20 – She lives with and works with me too! I get to see her everyday and I am not sure how long that will last before she flys and really starts her life as a young woman, but I will enjoy it until she does! She is sweet, smart, opinionated, junky and is never in a hurry for nothing!! LOL But that’s my girl!
God’s grace is so amazing – as parents we just do the best we know how and pray our children “turn out right.” So moms (and dads) do the best you can, just make sure it is the BEST YOU CAN to train up your children the right way. We make mistakes and sometimes have to eat our own words but that’s apart of it too. We are learning as they are growing!
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Have a wonderful rest of your week,