In 1996, when this happened I never thought I would be doing this. Any of it. The book wasn’t a thought during that time and I sure wasn’t thinking of producing a movie. Truthfully, I thought I was dammed. Then as life went on, I learned I wasn’t and that I while I didn’t have control of the past, I did have control over the future. That revelation is why I started Women Recharged back in 2011. It taught me that when a group of people join forces, they can do anything. And where one of us is weak or down – it’s the stretching of those before us that breathes new life into those in need. I was once in need, now I am breathing life into others and I hope you’ll join me!!
The creation of a world where women are empowered will be built only with the courage of those willing to fight with their voices! Whether you’ve just got a few minutes to spread the word to share the campaign or you want to back us on any level, every action is important.
Imagine this: Being 19 years old and hopeful about the world and how you’d grow up to do the things you’ve been wanting to since childhood….only to have the most intimate piece of you stolen like a thief in the night. Imagine all of your naivety being painted over with tar and the purity of your thoughts about the world, warped. Imagine being deceived and manipulated by someone you want to trust. Imagine drowning or burning in a fire – or being on the brink of ending it all. This film is about RESILIENCY.
WHY I CHOSE TO SHARE SOMETHING SO VILE AND PAINFUL:
This happened 20 years ago this year – and I still remember everything about that experience. It happens everyday – every 107* seconds – someone over the age of 12 in the US is raped.* And 47% of those victims know their attacker.* We often want to sweep ugliness under the rug but I can’t. I can no longer live in a world where I stand by and not do more. I dare not reach back and attempt to empower others to overcome – to thrive – to rise up from their pain, shame and dismay. I’m not a talker or a wisher.
I’ve decided to be apart of a dire solution in a very personal way – using my life as an example. In the words of Mikhail Gorbachev, “If not me, who. And if not now, when?
“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” Nora Ephron
This short film is inspired by the true story of my own experience and resiliency. As apart of my overall movement to empower women, I am sharing a past pain of being raped by a guy I knew for five days with the world in hopes that people who can relate will not feel alone in their struggle to be heard, and not just heard but seen and not just seen but felt.
I’ve always wanted to present this specific chapter of my memoir, Confessions of an Independent Woman: Truth, Lies & Relationships from the time I wrote it. I wanted people to know that no matter what happens in life, they can overcome. We can activate our own resiliency.
The film will use flash imagery to put the audience in the my shoes during that time in 1996. Flashing between the beginning of the story and the end, simultaneously will take viewers through a world wind of emotions. One second you will be filled with joy and hope that comes with meeting someone new and the next you will be taken to a dark place of pain and discomfort.
It’s my hope that this film short will force viewers to think differently, see people differently and appreciate the different battles many face. It’s our hope that rape isn’t called RAPE. The coin “date-rape” diminishes the violent act. I want people to walk away informed. I want survivors to walk away with a sense of inspiration in making their own transformation from circumstances that have overtaken them in their own pasts. It may not be rape – it could be anything a person would identify as overpowering. Such as:
- Health challenges
- Negative thinking
It is meant to encourage those to cultivate their own path of Resilience, in what ever way is personal to them. For me, it was rape.
*Sources: CDC, Department of Justice, RAINN